Orál Séx, African Diasporás and Issues Arising

Most séxually active people in the United States engage in orál séx. Matter-of-factly, to many, orál séx is more pléasurable than genital penetrátion. In America, different slangs have been coined for orál séx – Blów Jób, Gó-Dówn-Sóuth, Go-Dówn, Gét-A-Héad, 69-Pósition and the list goes on. For those who care about medical terminólogy, Cúnnilingus refers to orál séx performed on females while fellatió refers to orál séx performed on males.

For the most part, majority of Africans (especially African men) shun orál séx either for religious, cultural or traditional reasons. The few that engage in it will deny it vehemently in public because they see it as a disdainful “girly-man” séxual activity. A real man should be able to give a woman the same pléasure using his séx órgan, they will argue. In Nigeria for example, there are different

dénigrating words for describing men that pérform orál séx on womén.

Some years ago, a young American lady once cónfided that she broke up with her “African Boyfriend” because he refused to perfórm orál séx on her even though he wants her to perform orál séx on him.  “It is not right. It is very selfish of him. When I asked him why, he said he’s a prince and it is fórbidden for a Nigerian prince to do such things”, she complained.

However, many African men who are married to Westerners would tell you they have no choice perfórming orál séx on their partnérs. Some African women on the other hand who will like to have orál séx with their partner shy away from saying it because they do not want to be labeled as being “spóilt” or séxually pérverted which might lead to the ruin of their relationship.

Maybe not the younger Africans; but the middle-aged and older Africans (male and female alike) in the Western World have given reasons (real or fabricatéd) for refusing to engage in orál séx. Many will tell you it is bad (without any scientific proof) but based on what they heard from their parents or other adults in Africa.

In recent weeks, the claim by Michael Douglas’ (America famous actor) that orál séx might be the cause of his throat cancer has shed light on the “safety” of orál séx. In a candid interview with the Guardian newspaper, the actor said that he didn't regret his years of smoking and drinking, which were thought to be the cause of his cancer when he was diagnosed three years ago. "No. Because without wanting to get too specific, this particular cancer is caused by HPV [Human Papillomávirus], which actually comes about from cúnnilingus," he said.

Although it is known in some circles for years now that HPV contracted from orál séx along with smoking, could indeed bring on some types of orál cancers but not many people are informed about it, especially young people. It is believed that HPV inféctions usually don't cause any signs or symptoms in either séx, but some types can cause genitál wárts. High-risk types of HPV can cause pérsistent infection, which can gradually turn into cancer, and usually only cérvical cancer.

According to the US Centers for Disease Control, about 79 million Americans are currently infected with the disease and  HPV is so common that nearly all séxually-active men and women will get at least one type of HPV at some point in their lives.

One is tempted to think that Micheal Douglas’ public outcry on orál séx as probable cause of his cancer and the recent studies on Cúnnilingus diseases vindicaté the wisdom behind majority of Africans shunning orál séx. Could it be that the great ancestors of Africa knew about these diseases thousands of years ago and as such abstainéd from such acts?

For many African men in the Diaspora, it is a recurring relationship challenge especially for those that are married or in a relationship with none-Africans. Studies show that it is easier for an African-African partner to understandably deal with it if one partner is interested in orál séx and the other does not than for an African and a none-African relationship.

Like the American lady insinuatéd, many people have come to argue that réciprocity exists in séx, specifically orál séx, because if one wants to receive it, they also have to give it. So they pérform orál séx simply as a condition for receiving it.

The question is: As an African, will you perform orál séx on your partner if he or she request or indicaté interést in it with or without the latest revélation about orál séx?

What is your opinion on this issue?

May God bless Africans and all those in the Diaspora!

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