Re: [Relationship-Talk] Re: Typical Scenario: Husband Cheats...and I am the "'OTHER"

 

> I have a boyfriend of 3 years (younger boyfriend with 6 years gap) and the guy is married for 4 years(unstable marriage)-still living under the same roof with a 3-yr old daughter.

If he's still married, he's considered "Unavailable" for a relationship. The fact that you've allowed this man to use you for 4 years, makes sense-cuz it's working for him & you are allowing it to continue.

The instability in his marriage is a clue for you to recognize, he's not partnership material. He sees women with a distorted point-of-view and you're only affirming that WOMEN ARE PAWNS TO BE USED.LOOK at the example you both portray to the child who is learning about forming relationships at her age?!

 We met on a training for the new job and had been (slight) constantly dating for 5 months.

Was there any TRUTH-telling invovled here?! About his mistakes, what he learned from it, what he's doing to remedy them. IF he's still living with his wife, his SNAG

 And a friend of ours told me his plan of pursuing an annulment.

This information should be coming outta his own mouth-the friend is NOT involved in the process at all.

 Nevertheless, this guy hates arguments, or anything that will lead to arguing...and will simply leave you hanging with whatever issue. 

Classic runner, means he is NOT an honest person, has something to hide _Are we clear, here?!

Though we talk (after days...) 

Yah, cuz he's still married!!! They don't have the kind of freedom you do.

but he always tend to be okay the day after and as if nothing happened or nothing's wrong with us...

cuz IG he rocks the boat with you, he'll lose his "escape" which is what he's doing with you.Are you sure you want a dishonest man, who runs & escpaes from everything?!

.and he has been always aloof with issues..

Avoidance= lazy & Irresponsible-call it as you see it, Woman

.i could say i've fallen this time around...

for what?! A rock...he's showing you how empty, lonely & Full of fear he is. You find that appealing?!

Work on becoming more Peaceful, Loving & Happy-you'll attract that kind of partner.

and it sucks 'coz he's married and i'm not..

\0/ That's good news-you are FREE to pursue a relationship. He is NOT!!!

.he has a kid and i don't..

\0/ More Good News for you!!!

and at this point, I couldn't tell if he really is into getting serious...

EPIC Fail on his part cuz he's showing you by his present condition that he's NOT ready for LIFE on Life's terms-quite an adolescent in a big man's body!!! Do you really want to raise a child or have a man?!

every word he utters is way beyond his actions...Yes, so he can continue living in this delusional lifestyle that you're allowing him to act in.

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> Question: what to do? \0/ Set yourself FREE ~ Get into some rigorous TRUTH_telling and feel the genuine love of those who can SEE, accept & Love you for WHO you are ~ B4 engaging in another dead-end relationship.
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> Will I stay or should I go? Your Choice \0/ Do you want to experience more of what you're going thru OR Do you want to know what Real Love &  Genuine Happiness feels like?!

>Sincerely,

Robin M. La'a

Prof. Relationship Coach

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From: Zzoya_1 <zzoya_1@yahoo.com>
To: Relationship-Talk <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Wed, Feb 20, 2013 12:03 pm
Subject: [Relationship-Talk] Re: Typical Scenario: Husband Cheats...and I am the "'OTHER"

 

Christine,
trust me leave him cuz the more time u'll give to this relationship the more painful it will be for u to get normal once again. If he have an unstable marriage he would have left it anyhow, but this shows he is just passing time & nothing else.
Take care
Zoya

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> I have a boyfriend of 3 years (younger boyfriend with 6 years gap) and the guy is married for 4 years(unstable marriage)-still living under the same roof with a 3-yr old daughter. We met on a training for the new job and had been (slight) constantly dating for 5 months. And a friend of ours told me his plan of pursuing an annulment. Nevertheless, this guy hates arguments, or anything that will lead to arguing...and will simply leave you hanging with whatever issue. Though we talk (after days...) but he always tend to be okay the day after and as if nothing happened or nothing's wrong with us....and he has been always aloof with issues...i could say i've fallen this time around...and it sucks 'coz he's married and i'm not...he has a kid and i don't..and at this point, I couldn't tell if he really is into getting serious...every word he utters is way beyond his actions...
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