Saturday 23 March 2013

[Relationship-Talk] friends or more?

 

Hello I am seeing a man right now for about a year and a half he has
some health issues that I am concerned about but he never talks
about them I do not want to go into detail.

But I feel like he talks to his friends about them and I am in a sexual
realtionship with him and he don't want to talk to me and it really
hurts I feel like it is a slap in the face. Plus right after we
have sexual relations he seems to bolt not want to spend time with
me after he gets with me.

I am a shy girl have not been in many relationships and it was very
hard for me to get to this step with a man. In fact I went 10 years
almost without any sex because it was something I don't share with
to many people and I think most women are that way.

Now I am stuck because I love him and I am sure he don't feel the
same way I have felt him drifting the last month or two he is away
right now with family helping them out. That is another thing he helps
everyone around him but me I am expected to go it alone while he is
there for important events in his friends and familys lives.

I am feeling very much used and hurt because........put it this
way I was very much innocent and that is something he holds very
little regard for I always thought......I would be married as far
along as what I am in this relationship and we are not married.
I feel like a slut or tramp for having sex outside marriage he
does not know these feelings for one he is a man and also he has
had other relations so those kind of feelings he lost a long time
ago in the mean time I am ready to break it off because I can't take
feeling like this and he just has no feelings for me and I will
most likely never be with another man other then as friendship.
The whole idea of sex kind of revolts me because a man could make
it hold such little meaning.
Please help I am feeling so alone right now and used and hurt
I am not sure what to make of this are men just like this with
sex on a whole?

Anyway I am ready to move I can not take it around here anymore
he has too many friends I am alone here.
Help

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[Relationship-Talk] Re: When is "too old" too old for a 2nd relationship after 30 years marriage?

 

Hi I am seeing a older man over 10 years he was married before for many years. I love him
very much but because of money and distance apart I think we will have to break it off.
For him being much older and alot more experience will find another love fast. He was kind
gentle to his family and friends always helped his family and friends was smart and wise and
i know he will have no problems with finding a new girl.
 
I am a 40 year old women and that story is a bit will not be the same as his because of my age
I will not be able to find another man and I don't want to I loved him. Men can have relationships
at any age with women it is very much another story men always want a young women and
nice shape and if she don't have these things she  better have money.
 
So you being a man go for it your a man! 

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Friday 22 March 2013

[Relationship-Talk] Re: Confused....

 

Hello there, Like I always say, relationships can be very stressful at times, to the point where you feel like giving up. However, it usually takes the two people that are involved in a relationship to resolve whatever issue(s) that have been creating the stress. In other words, it doesn't matter what advice others might give you, ultimately you will have to make the final decision as to what you can live with!

Suffice to say, from what I am hearing from you,you both love each other, so this is a good start! When two people love each other, they should be willing to sit down and constantly talk matters over. I do understand the resentment that you now have towards him - your'e only human, and especially when someone defiles your trust, it's hard to live with this! However,if you want to get pass this, you will have to agree to compromise. Resenting him, will only keep pushing him further and further away from you, to the point where he might return to the abnormal behavior that's responsible for the problem in the first place.

The other side to this is, is he really trying hard enough, or is he really a change person? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then you can try working it out with him. Just put your trust in God. Pray about this. With God all things are possible! Try to meet him half-way, and see how things unfold! In the end you can say you have given it your best shot!

--- In Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com, Inga Chak <inga_chak@...> wrote:
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> Hi there.. it is very tough spot, situation you are in...
> i did not get that from your email, if he has cheated or it went as far as just sending pics...
>  
> It takes long time to build the trust and good rappoport...
> If you will be looking for the same as it was, it will not happen and you will be exhausted looking and waiting for it..
> I would suggest, if you feel you need to get therapy do...
> But i would look for new things to fall in love with or be attracted to...
> he gave up all this stuff to be with you - that means you are very important part of his life...
> It will take to re-build trust... and only time will tell if that happens...
>  
> You will go thru other experiences and that will help you in building back the relationship..
> But it won't be the same... It will be different... Hopefully diffferent good :)
> ing
>
> --- On Mon, 3/18/13, Nancy Ottinger <nottinger66@...> wrote:
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> From: Nancy Ottinger <nottinger66@...>
> Subject: Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....
> To: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Monday, March 18, 2013, 11:10 AM
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> No, my kids are not really aware to whole extent. Just something happen and he lost his job, we did counseling. Donx27;t feel itx27;s their place to know whole story. If I left I would b fine financially, wouldnx27;t go into detail with them as why.. No ones business but mine.
>
> Hubby did look/up and attending a few sessions of SAA meetings, did counseling on his own too. The counselor told him he didnx27;t think he was a sex addict based on the fact he wasnx27;t spening money, going to bars or picking up prostitutes. So hubby stopped going, I was a little pissed the counselor would do this. I told him what I expected and what I could and could not live with... As far a his actions. We have went on from there. His computer use is limited (his doing). So far he has done/not done everything I have asked. Itx27;s me... I look at him differently and donx27;t know if I can get back what was lost. Before all this I had never doubted him once... I know it will take time, but will it ever be same as before? How can I get that back? See? Confused. Lol.
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> From: xogenevieveox@... <xogenevieveox@...>;
> To: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
> Cc: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
> Subject: Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....
> Sent: Sat, Mar 16, 2013 10:21:11 AM
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> I think the longer couples stay together then the less likely that they will separate. Sex is an enormous drive which can become an addiction.
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> World if couples just stuck exclusively to each other for sexual gratification, but as we know there are so many temptations with such easy access. It can start just out of curiosity. 
> I am sure your husband genuinely is trying his best to make you feel you can trust him again. 
> Are your children aware of what has happened and how would you explain it all to them if you split up. 
> Would you be able to stay friends or would that be that. 
> I don't think it would be right to advise you what to do. Only you can decide x
> Jules x
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> Sent from my iPhone
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> On 15 Mar 2013, at 15:00, "nottinger66" <nottinger66@...> wrote:
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> I am new on here, first time ever " doing this". Here it goes....
> Been married to same man for 18 years this month. Had some rocky roads in past, kids, finance..etc. Did some counseling, got past it, things were good... Or so I thought. 2 years ago was slammed in face with the worst. I found some phone pics he sent to co-workers. I confronted him, even told him to move out. He denied everything, was a co- worker who got ahold of his phone playing games. Said co- worker called me an apologized... I dealt with it..moved on. A year later he got fired from his job for taking a costumer personal phone and sending her dirty pics to his phone... WTH! He admitted to it and previous pics (with co-worker). Said he lied because didn't want to loose me. I was crushed.. Wanted him to leave. We talked, he begged me to stay... Confessed it all... Addiction to Internet porn (which I suspected and had been an issue for a long time), co-worker pics, getting fired... Then he dropped the "I'm so ashamed, I think about killing myself". I
> let him stay, we did counseling. Took a long time to get thru this. He doesn't use the computer anywhere but in a common area of the house now. Things seem to be going good... With one exception. Me... I can't get past this. I think about everyday, wait for the bomb to hit again. I have forgiven him, but I don't think I trust him. Can I ever get past this? I have told him what I can or cannot live with (computer stuff, phone stuff). He has complied with all... Not at first but once he realized I meant it he did. I know he loves me, is a good provider, good to kids.... But this is always in back of my mind. I do love him but wonder if it's enough. How can i trust and depend on him ever again? We are not as close as we used to be, because of me. He tries but I'm always holding back. Guess I'm afraid of being hurt again. Maybe I should try counseling by myself. When we went together the counselor made a statement to me. " you need to figure out what YOU
> can live with". Maybe some soul searching is in order... We have 3 kids.. 26, 24, & 16. Kids aren't an issue, I have a good job so support is not an issue either. In could survive on my own... I have thought about it... Don't know why I stay, other than i do love him. Any advice out there?? Thanks, N
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Professor Chinua Achebe Is Dead


Prof. Chinua Achebe
By SaharaReporters, New York
Chinua Achebe, one of the world’s most celebrated writers and author of the classic novel Things Fall Apart, is dead.
SaharaReporters learned that Achebe, who was the David and Mariana Fisher Professor of Literature at Brown University, died last night in a hospital in Boston, Massachusetts. Professor Achebe had been sick for some time.
He was 82 years old
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100 soldiers storm terror suspects’ hideouts in Lagos


Two suspected Boko Haram members were arrested at a house in Ijora, Lagos yesterday by soldiers acting on a tip off.  The soldiers found AK-47 rifles, bomb, cartridges, daggers etc hidden in the apartment. Below is how Punch is reporting it:
Fear gripped many residents of Lagos  on Thursday when news filtered in that troops numbering about 100 stormed terror suspects’ hideouts in Ijora, a densely populated part of the city.
The soldiers, who were assisted by men of the State Security Service, were  believed to have acted on a tip-off. They were said to have arrived in the area around 7am in search of the suspects said to be  members of an Islamic fundamentalist sect, Boko Haram.

Thursday 21 March 2013

Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....

 

Hi there.. it is very tough spot, situation you are in...
i did not get that from your email, if he has cheated or it went as far as just sending pics...
 
It takes long time to build the trust and good rappoport...
If you will be looking for the same as it was, it will not happen and you will be exhausted looking and waiting for it..
I would suggest, if you feel you need to get therapy do...
But i would look for new things to fall in love with or be attracted to...
he gave up all this stuff to be with you - that means you are very important part of his life...
It will take to re-build trust... and only time will tell if that happens...
 
You will go thru other experiences and that will help you in building back the relationship..
But it won't be the same... It will be different... Hopefully diffferent good :)
ing

--- On Mon, 3/18/13, Nancy Ottinger <nottinger66@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Nancy Ottinger <nottinger66@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....
To: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, March 18, 2013, 11:10 AM

 
No, my kids are not really aware to whole extent. Just something happen and he lost his job, we did counseling. Donx27;t feel itx27;s their place to know whole story. If I left I would b fine financially, wouldnx27;t go into detail with them as why.. No ones business but mine.

Hubby did look/up and attending a few sessions of SAA meetings, did counseling on his own too. The counselor told him he didnx27;t think he was a sex addict based on the fact he wasnx27;t spening money, going to bars or picking up prostitutes. So hubby stopped going, I was a little pissed the counselor would do this. I told him what I expected and what I could and could not live with... As far a his actions. We have went on from there. His computer use is limited (his doing). So far he has done/not done everything I have asked. Itx27;s me... I look at him differently and donx27;t know if I can get back what was lost. Before all this I had never doubted him once... I know it will take time, but will it ever be same as before? How can I get that back? See? Confused. Lol.


From: xogenevieveox@gmail.com <xogenevieveox@gmail.com>;
To: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
Cc: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
Subject: Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....
Sent: Sat, Mar 16, 2013 10:21:11 AM

 
I think the longer couples stay together then the less likely that they will separate. Sex is an enormous drive which can become an addiction.
It would be a wonderful
World if couples just stuck exclusively to each other for sexual gratification, but as we know there are so many temptations with such easy access. It can start just out of curiosity. 
I am sure your husband genuinely is trying his best to make you feel you can trust him again. 
Are your children aware of what has happened and how would you explain it all to them if you split up. 
Would you be able to stay friends or would that be that. 
I don't think it would be right to advise you what to do. Only you can decide x
Jules x

Sent from my iPhone

On 15 Mar 2013, at 15:00, "nottinger66" <nottinger66@yahoo.com> wrote:

 
I am new on here, first time ever " doing this". Here it goes....
Been married to same man for 18 years this month. Had some rocky roads in past, kids, finance..etc. Did some counseling, got past it, things were good... Or so I thought. 2 years ago was slammed in face with the worst. I found some phone pics he sent to co-workers. I confronted him, even told him to move out. He denied everything, was a co- worker who got ahold of his phone playing games. Said co- worker called me an apologized... I dealt with it..moved on. A year later he got fired from his job for taking a costumer personal phone and sending her dirty pics to his phone... WTH! He admitted to it and previous pics (with co-worker). Said he lied because didn't want to loose me. I was crushed.. Wanted him to leave. We talked, he begged me to stay... Confessed it all... Addiction to Internet porn (which I suspected and had been an issue for a long time), co-worker pics, getting fired... Then he dropped the "I'm so ashamed, I think about killing myself". I let him stay, we did counseling. Took a long time to get thru this. He doesn't use the computer anywhere but in a common area of the house now. Things seem to be going good... With one exception. Me... I can't get past this. I think about everyday, wait for the bomb to hit again. I have forgiven him, but I don't think I trust him. Can I ever get past this? I have told him what I can or cannot live with (computer stuff, phone stuff). He has complied with all... Not at first but once he realized I meant it he did. I know he loves me, is a good provider, good to kids.... But this is always in back of my mind. I do love him but wonder if it's enough. How can i trust and depend on him ever again? We are not as close as we used to be, because of me. He tries but I'm always holding back. Guess I'm afraid of being hurt again. Maybe I should try counseling by myself. When we went together the counselor made a statement to me. " you need to figure out what YOU can live with". Maybe some soul searching is in order... We have 3 kids.. 26, 24, & 16. Kids aren't an issue, I have a good job so support is not an issue either. In could survive on my own... I have thought about it... Don't know why I stay, other than i do love him. Any advice out there?? Thanks, N

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Wednesday 20 March 2013

90 Per Cent Of Core Northern Politicians Are Members Of Boko Haram – CAN


The Christian Association of Nigeria in the 19 Northern States and Abuja has reacted to the killing of over 60 persons Monday evening at a motor park in Kano, saying it exposed the hypocrisy of those canvassing amnesty for  members.
Christian body’s Public Relations Officer, Mr. Sunny Oibe, who stated this in an interview alleged that 90 per cent of politicians in the North were members of the sect. He said, “We commiserate  families of the people who lost their loved ones and they should take solace in the God, who is going to fight on their behalf.
“The latest attack has exposed the hypocrisy of the people calling for amnesty for Boko Haram members. It is surprising that they are demanding amnesty for people, who have been killing innocent citizens on daily basis.
“We are sad about it and the latest attack goes to show that they are not ready for any ceasefire. All the people calling for amnesty are part of these problems because they are shielding these people and almost 90 percent of core northern politicians are members of this Boko Haram.”
SOURCE: Information Nigeria


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How we kidnapped, killed pregnant woman, hotel MD, others – Kidnap suspect


we kidnap victims from  State, take them to Rivers state …
 leader of  a kidnap syndicate that abducted the Managing Director,  Naija Plaza Hotel, Oguta, Imo state and a pregnant  and   them after collecting ransom from their relatives,  has been  by Policemen attached to Ilemba Hausa division in Lagos.
The suspect,   Chika Richard Nwabiarijie, who hails from Omoku Local Government Area of Rivers state, was arrested in a hotel around Ojo area, in the company of his wife.
26-year-old Richard, reportedly  fled Rivers state to take cover in Lagos, following the arrest of other members of his gang by the Imo state Police command.

Kind Gesture Toward Girlfriend of Deployed Soldier Becomes Internet Sensation


The letter everyone's loving (and Ford, inset). Photos: FacebookThe story of a good deed has spread like wildfire online since Sunday, when an anonymous do-gooder left a kind note and $40 on a woman’s windshield in a Dunkin’ Donuts parking lot.

“I noticed the sticker on the back of your car,” the note read, referring to a “Half my Heart is in Afghanistan” bumper sticker. “Take your hero out to dinner when he comes home. Thank you both for serving. Him deployed and you for waiting.” It was signed “United States veteran” and “God Bless.” 

Tuesday 19 March 2013

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Eva Alordiah reveals secrets of her Flawless Skin


Ok so I realize that it seems like I have really good clear skin... Actually I don't. Or should i say i never exactly had it all rosy. Being a severe Acne and pimples sufferer for a long period of time, i still have blemishes here and there from old acne scars. Plus my skin hasn't exactly become perfect. Not like that is ever going to happen. Hehe.

Over time, I have researched and learned several ways to care for my skin without breaking the bank. Everything from Honey, Lemon, Green tea, Vitamin E and my favorite of all, Shea butter! You probably already know the many benefits of Shea Butter already.

Now straight to my Shea Butter facial... I assure you, you'd feel like you have the smoothest baby skin once you are done. What you'd need:

-Natural, raw (unprocessed) Shea butter
-Facial scrub (Preferably one with lots of scrubbing beads)
-Warm water
-Facial mask (Preferably a natural mask of Honey/Lime/Avocado/Egg white)

Here's what I do:

STEP 1. Apply a generous quantity of Shea butter on your face. The idea is to let it sit on your face, not get absorbed, so you'd need a much larger quantity than the regular application. Massage with your fingers in circular motions, applying pressure in problem areas of your face (spots, blemishes, scars). Let this sit on your face for 5minutes. (You could keep it on for as long as 20minutes if you have the time)

LADIES: WHY YOU SHOULD STOP WEARING TIGHT PANTS


For women, it is almost a must to wear panties. While some go for loose panties, a large number go for tight-fitting ones just to give a s^x appeal!
If only they knew that tight undergarments pose a danger to one’s health. Some studies have shown that tight briefs in particular are actually harmful to the human body. Tight panties? Dangerous to health. How?
First, tight briefs disrupt the lymphatic system, which removes wastes and toxins from the entire body, and causes wastes and toxins not to be properly removed from the body. This is dangerous!

A potential con of wearing tight underwear, especially for women, is the increased likelihood of developing yeast infection or urinary tract infection. How does this come about? Just wear tight panties and you will discover that your v**ina does not breathe well. So, it is better to choose a size that follows your body’s contours perfectly, but not tight.

Secondary School Students Get Free Computer Tablets In Osun


The government of Osun state on Tuesday commenced the distribution of free computer tablets otherwise known as ‘Opon Imo’ (tablet of knowledge) to students in the state’s Senior Secondary Schools.
The distribution kicked off at Ataoja School of Science in Osogbo, the state capital, where about 387 students in SS 2  were given the mobile device.
The ‘Opon Imo’ contains apps such e-book library, integrated test zone and 17 virtual classroom subjects to enhance e-learning for the students.
The tablet with its technology enhanced learning platform  is expected to complement efforts of the teachers and students for better performance in learning and teaching.

Popular Rapper Shot His Best Friend in the Head…Claims it was an Illuminati Sacrifice!


A judge in Virginia has scheduled a two-day trial to begin in June, for an aspiring rapper who tried to sacrifice his friend - to become a member of the elusive ILLUMINATI group.
Wafeeq Sabir El-Amin, 27, was denied bond by the judge who called Wafeeq a "danger to the public." What happened? Well police say that Wafeeq shot his friend in THE HEAD inside a music studio while he slept. The victim awoke from a drowsy sleep to see Wafeeq pointing a gun at his head and saying that he needed to be sacrificed.

The bullet ricocheted off the victim's hand sending bone and skin fragments into his eye, according to the warrant, but the victim was able to get hold of the gun and shoot El-Amin in the stomach before he ran off.
Wafeeq, who was heard shouting "You are my sacrifice" as he pulled the trigger, believed that a sacrifice had to occur in order to join the Illuminati.
Investigators recovered more than a pound of marijuana from the Athens Avenue home, according to the search warrant, as well as literature dealing with the Illuminati and its alleged connection to the music industry.


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How Brain Training Can Make You Significantly Smarter


Explanation: How Brain Training Can Make You Significantly Smarter


As many people hit middle age, they often start to notice that their memory and mental clarity are not what they used to be.  We suddenly can't remember where we put the keys just a moment ago, or an old acquaintance's name, or the name of an old band we used to love.  As the brain fades, we euphemistically refer to these occurrences as "senior moments."

While seemingly innocent, this loss of mental focus can potentially have a detrimental impact on our professional, social, and personal well-being. 
It happens to most of us, but is it inevitable? 
Neuroscientists are increasingly showing that there's actually a lot that can be done.  It turns that the brain needs exercise in much the same way our muscles do, and the right mental workouts can

We will fish out attackers of Nigerian Prison Wardens, Warri South Chairman vows



Dr. Augustine Uroye (5th from right, front row) Mr. SA Bewaji (6th from right) some Prison Service Officials & Members of WSLG Peace & Security Committee shortly after the condolence   Dr. Augustine Uroye (5th from right, front row) Mr. SA Bewaji (6th from right) some Prison Service Officials & Members of WSLG Peace & Security Committee shortly after the condolence 
The Transition Committee Chairman of Warri South local government, Dr. Augustine Uroye has vowed that the gunmen who attacked members of the Nigerian Prisons Service, Warri Wednesday March 13 on their way to a Warri High Court will be brought to book, declaring that their force cannot surmount that of government.


Dr. Uroye made the vow Friday March 15 when he led members of the Warri South Local Government Council Peace and Security Committee on a condolence visit to the Nigerian Prisons, Okere, Warri.


The Warri South Council boss, who noted that the prison service is not alone in the recent tragic incident, declared that the council’s peace and security committee which comprises of security Chiefs, prominent clerics and Community leaders is ready to synergize with the prison authority to forestall any reoccurrence.

Monday 18 March 2013

Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....

 

No, my kids are not really aware to whole extent. Just something happen and he lost his job, we did counseling. Donx27;t feel itx27;s their place to know whole story. If I left I would b fine financially, wouldnx27;t go into detail with them as why.. No ones business but mine.

Hubby did look/up and attending a few sessions of SAA meetings, did counseling on his own too. The counselor told him he didnx27;t think he was a sex addict based on the fact he wasnx27;t spening money, going to bars or picking up prostitutes. So hubby stopped going, I was a little pissed the counselor would do this. I told him what I expected and what I could and could not live with... As far a his actions. We have went on from there. His computer use is limited (his doing). So far he has done/not done everything I have asked. Itx27;s me... I look at him differently and donx27;t know if I can get back what was lost. Before all this I had never doubted him once... I know it will take time, but will it ever be same as before? How can I get that back? See? Confused. Lol.


From: xogenevieveox@gmail.com <xogenevieveox@gmail.com>;
To: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
Cc: Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com <Relationship-Talk@yahoogroups.com>;
Subject: Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....
Sent: Sat, Mar 16, 2013 10:21:11 AM

 

I think the longer couples stay together then the less likely that they will separate. Sex is an enormous drive which can become an addiction.
It would be a wonderful
World if couples just stuck exclusively to each other for sexual gratification, but as we know there are so many temptations with such easy access. It can start just out of curiosity. 
I am sure your husband genuinely is trying his best to make you feel you can trust him again. 
Are your children aware of what has happened and how would you explain it all to them if you split up. 
Would you be able to stay friends or would that be that. 
I don't think it would be right to advise you what to do. Only you can decide x
Jules x

Sent from my iPhone

On 15 Mar 2013, at 15:00, "nottinger66" <nottinger66@yahoo.com> wrote:

 

I am new on here, first time ever " doing this". Here it goes....
Been married to same man for 18 years this month. Had some rocky roads in past, kids, finance..etc. Did some counseling, got past it, things were good... Or so I thought. 2 years ago was slammed in face with the worst. I found some phone pics he sent to co-workers. I confronted him, even told him to move out. He denied everything, was a co- worker who got ahold of his phone playing games. Said co- worker called me an apologized... I dealt with it..moved on. A year later he got fired from his job for taking a costumer personal phone and sending her dirty pics to his phone... WTH! He admitted to it and previous pics (with co-worker). Said he lied because didn't want to loose me. I was crushed.. Wanted him to leave. We talked, he begged me to stay... Confessed it all... Addiction to Internet porn (which I suspected and had been an issue for a long time), co-worker pics, getting fired... Then he dropped the "I'm so ashamed, I think about killing myself". I let him stay, we did counseling. Took a long time to get thru this. He doesn't use the computer anywhere but in a common area of the house now. Things seem to be going good... With one exception. Me... I can't get past this. I think about everyday, wait for the bomb to hit again. I have forgiven him, but I don't think I trust him. Can I ever get past this? I have told him what I can or cannot live with (computer stuff, phone stuff). He has complied with all... Not at first but once he realized I meant it he did. I know he loves me, is a good provider, good to kids.... But this is always in back of my mind. I do love him but wonder if it's enough. How can i trust and depend on him ever again? We are not as close as we used to be, because of me. He tries but I'm always holding back. Guess I'm afraid of being hurt again. Maybe I should try counseling by myself. When we went together the counselor made a statement to me. " you need to figure out what YOU can live with". Maybe some soul searching is in order... We have 3 kids.. 26, 24, & 16. Kids aren't an issue, I have a good job so support is not an issue either. In could survive on my own... I have thought about it... Don't know why I stay, other than i do love him. Any advice out there?? Thanks, N

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Re: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....

 

Hello, you are not alone with what you are going through. Many others are going through the same.

First foremost, your hubby is addicted to porn. My advice is that he comes to face with it in order to deal with it. Porn is like an animal, it will always leave you wanting more, never satisfied. Its an addiction from the DEVIL. I say so coz it steals, kills, destroys the love trust between a couple.

John 10:10 "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly."

What your husband needs is Jesus Christ who will deliver liberate him from that stronghold of porn. Listed below are some sites to help you him:-

www.emmanuel.tv
www.scoan.org
www.befreeinchrist.com

I've also subscribed your email to a daily devotional email, you can always unsubscribe if you don't want it.

Don't give up on your husband, coz that's a marriage from God.


I'm praying for you your husband.

Stay blessed keep smiling for Jesus,

Noel

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Date: Fri, 15 Mar 2013 15:00:18 -0000
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Subject: [Relationship-Talk] Confused....

 

I am new on here, first time ever " doing this". Here it goes....
Been married to same man for 18 years this month. Had some rocky roads in past, kids, finance..etc. Did some counseling, got past it, things were good... Or so I thought. 2 years ago was slammed in face with the worst. I found some phone pics he sent to co-workers. I confronted him, even told him to move out. He denied everything, was a co- worker who got ahold of his phone playing games. Said co- worker called me an apologized... I dealt with it..moved on. A year later he got fired from his job for taking a costumer personal phone and sending her dirty pics to his phone... WTH! He admitted to it and previous pics (with co-worker). Said he lied because didn't want to loose me. I was crushed.. Wanted him to leave. We talked, he begged me to stay... Confessed it all... Addiction to Internet porn (which I suspected and had been an issue for a long time), co-worker pics, getting fired... Then he dropped the "I'm so ashamed, I think about killing myself". I let him stay, we did counseling. Took a long time to get thru this. He doesn't use the computer anywhere but in a common area of the house now. Things seem to be going good... With one exception. Me... I can't get past this. I think about everyday, wait for the bomb to hit again. I have forgiven him, but I don't think I trust him. Can I ever get past this? I have told him what I can or cannot live with (computer stuff, phone stuff). He has complied with all... Not at first but once he realized I meant it he did. I know he loves me, is a good provider, good to kids.... But this is always in back of my mind. I do love him but wonder if it's enough. How can i trust and depend on him ever again? We are not as close as we used to be, because of me. He tries but I'm always holding back. Guess I'm afraid of being hurt again. Maybe I should try counseling by myself. When we went together the counselor made a statement to me. " you need to figure out what YOU can live with". Maybe some soul searching is in order... We have 3 kids.. 26, 24, & 16. Kids aren't an issue, I have a good job so support is not an issue either. In could survive on my own... I have thought about it... Don't know why I stay, other than i do love him. Any advice out there?? Thanks, N

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