Saturday 22 September 2012

[marriagerestoration] Think Positive - Sept. 20, 2012 - Doreen's Daily Delights

 

Think Positive!!

Phillipians 4:8, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of GOOD REPORT; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

Whatever situation you are facing today, think positive. No matter how dim it looks, God is in control.

God is able turn your situation around because nothing is hard for the Lord. When trouble strikes, what you want is comfort and protection. What you want is confidence that God can do the impossible. You want strength to stand up to it and meet it. You can have both.

Psa. 46: "God is our refuge and strength a very present help in trouble." This text contains the answer. Frequently remind yourself that God is with you and will help you, that He will never fail you, that you can count upon Him to bring about deliverance. Think on these things.

It's so important not to dwell on negative things. Things that are not of good report. Things that are against God, or, are displeasing to God. These things are contrary to God's word so we should not get caught up in it.

We need to dwell on what is pure and lovely. God's Word is the place to start. God can bring about change in our thinking. His word is truth, and this truth will set us free. As we dwell on what is true, pure, lovely, kind and gracious – it will transform us!

God wants us to THINK differently. He knows our "thoughts" can do us in. We "think" the wrong things, "believe" the wrong things, "do" the wrong things. Being anxious is the wrong thing. This is evidence we're not "relying" on God's ability.

Don't focus on the difficulties. Focus on the opportunities you have to prove God's faithfulness in your situation. Think on these things!

Thanks for all your prayers and support. I am most grateful to those who are assisting me in this venture. Believe this. You will be rewarded.

Be encouraged
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Friday 21 September 2012

[Relationship-Talk] New here and needing someone to talk to....

 

I will try to make this short but it goes back 25 years so I don't know how short it will be...

I am married and have been with my husband for a total of 25 years. When I met him I was 20 he was 25 and he was an very severe alcoholic. For the first 17 years we were together he drank and got wasted out of his mind wasted almost everyday then at that time I decided to finally leave and when I told him that a few days later he proceeded to go on a HUGE alcohol and drug related binge and OD'd (in 2004) and had to be brought back to life. He then quit drinking for 2 years. In 2006 he started drinking again but very rarely and never as much at one time as before. By 2009 or so he was back to drinking almost everyday but normally only a 6 pack or so, never a case or more like the old days.

There is so much to tell I really don't know how to tell it all. That's been the back ground of our marriage and total time together. Even though for the first 17 years he was a horrible alcoholic I never once thought about or was attracted to another person until after about 15 years together I met this friend of a friend who was/is a lesbian and her and I became VERY good friends but sadly I feel deeply in love with her and she didn't feel the same however we stayed very good friends even through all that and still even talk sometimes now. This all took place from around 2001 to 2005. Nothing sexual ever happen and though my husband said many times I was in love with her I would never admit it because he is the type of person that thinks if I loved her I must have slept with her and I knew he would forbid me to remain friends with her so I choose to distance myself from her to try to get over her. I used to see her and talk to her all the time then but then we went a couple years with only texting a couple times a month and only seeing each other maybe 3 or 4 times and finally though I still care about her very much my feelings wasn't as strong as before and I focused on my husband and I and etc. Aside from him still drinking things were good between us.

The last couple years have been a huge strain on our marriage as I think I am going through menopause and also am just not sure how I feel about my husband anymore and was considering moving out back in April. He begged me not to leave and wanted to make things better. Wanted to not drink anymore and etc. Well I feel for that line 2 more times and now am still here but up until last weekend he had been 5 weeks without drinking at all. Last weekend he did a major screw up and drank for the first time in 5 weeks and got a DUI, something he hadn't had since 2007. So not sure where that is going to take us but that isn't all......

From the time I got control of my feelings for my best friend in the early 2000's I had again never been attracted to or wanted another person until about 8 months ago when I started the job that I am currently working at. There is another girl that works in the office with me and then the rest of the people we work with are all guys. None of them are really anything to look at but one, however there are alot of them that a fun to joke with and etc. But anyway this one guy "P" and the other girl that I work with have worked together for about 5 years and are pretty good friends and joke around with each other even in a sexual way and even grab each other once in awhile joking around and etc. Well after I got comfortable around them him and I started joking around in the same way, however sometime in late June him and I playing and flirting around went a little further then him and her in the fact that we started touching each other under our clothes. I have no clue why I let this happen because that is NOT something I do and it's NOT who I am. But there is just something about this guy and I don't know what it is. Well after about 2 weeks of us doing what we were doing and it went pretty far. Didn't have sex but come close he decided to stop it. Said he felt guilty and etc because I'm married (he's been divorced for 10 years and single for 2 years). Then a couple weeks later I kinda talked him into doing stuff again and this time we went even further. We didn't have sex but come as close to it as you could imagine. Then he decided to stop it again because of me being married but also because he doesn't want a relationship, doesn't want me to get hurt and etc and even though I respect how he feels for awhile I was very upset. I took it that he wasn't attracted to me anymore and etc and it almost cost us the friendship we were building. But we talked things though and are in a good place now however I still very much want something to happen between us again and have even considered going all the way if he would and though I feel quilty about wanting to do it I still think I might if he said he would. I just don't get it.

So right now this is the biggest issues. I do love my husband but I don't think that I am in love with him anymore however I am afraid to leave him, not because of what he will do to me but because of what he will do to himself. Been there done that before and he almost died. I know NOT my fault but even if I'm not in love with him it's really hard to leave a 25 year marriage when he's really trying to make it better and it's hard to break someone's heart and if I leave I know it will break his heart. But I am NOT a person to cheat, never have until now. Though we haven't had sex what we have done I consider cheating and I know it's wrong but there's just something about this guy. My husband and I have had sexual issues and I know that this guy giving me this attention is probably why I like it so much...I know I shouldn't do it but I want to and sometimes I just don't care because I want to so bad.

Could this just be menopause or is it that I'm not in love with my husband or what. This is sooooooooo out of chareter for me that I just really can't explain it.

Sorry it wasn't short, figure it wouldn't be but if you happen to make it all the way through any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated!!!

Tamitha

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Wednesday 19 September 2012

[marriagerestoration] This Too Shall Pass!! - Sept. 19, 2012 - Doreen's Daily Delights

 


This Too Shall Pass!!

Psalms 34:19 says, "Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth them out of them all."

Good morning to you my friend. Today I want to tell you that no matter how difficult your times of trial, you'll find comfort and encouragement in the Word of God.

If you are going through a situation in your home, you have prayed and is waiting for the Lord to see you through; today I want to tell you that your deliverance is inevitable.

Regardless of the circumstances you are now facing, no matter how desperate the situation may appear, this too shall pass. Better days are ahead, and you will be delivered. This is what the Word of God is saying to you today.

I want to assure you that despite what is before your eyes, it is definitely well with you and this too shall pass away. Some of you reading this devotional might be like "it is easier said than done. She has no idea how impossible my situation is."

I am here to tell you that the God, who makes the impossible possible is very much alive and at His appointed time, will bring your situation to an expected end.

This is the same God who parted the Red sea and the children of Israel walked on dry ground, then what is too difficult for Him?

Keep trusting, keep believing and lean not to your own understanding because this too shall pass. You will be delivered. Many may be your afflictions, but you will be delivered out of them all. This too shall pass.

Can you assist me in getting a laptop or computer to continue doing Ministry work? I am currently using a borrowed laptop and I must return it soon. Any help you can offer will be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Be encouraged
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Re: Blade Runner, heat 1.... by "Nick Tatalias" nicktatalias

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Tue Sep 18, 2012 10:32 am (PDT) . Posted by:

"Nick Tatalias" nicktatalias

Hi Ken,

I join this coversation much later. I have read your post with interest and
enjoy the references greatly. I appologise for not participating more but a
work assignment had me in central Africa for all of August and early
September with work pressure and poor connectivity putting pay to much
particiapation.

I managed to see on television Oscar run in both the Olympics and Para
Olympics. I found it interesting that the T43 and T44 racers raced
together but that the single leg amputee was the faster runner beating
Oscar in teh 100m. You have previously mentioned that getting the balance
between normal and blades would confer a disadvantage to the single leg
runner but this was not evident in the shorter sprint events. Do you have
any comments from what you saw in the para olympics.

Regards
Nick Tatalias
Kisanfu
Democratic Republic of Congo

On 7 August 2012 20:35, <CoachJ1@aol.com> wrote:

> **
>
>
> Hi John!
>
>
> >Why? My reasoning was that the calves were as far away from my heart as
> possible which meant longer circulatory routing. As well the blood vessels
> in the calves are smaller, and the distance back to the heart was all
> vertical and again the longest in the body
>
> I'd recommend going Dr. Weyand's lab site:
> _http://smu.edu/education/apw/LocomotorNews.asp_ (
> http://smu.edu/education/apw/LocomotorNews.asp)
>
> Look to your left and scroll down to the lab videos.
>
> There is a clip of Pistorius there, but note the other views as well and
> watch where force is peaking at these higher speeds. By the time the
> athletes appear to be "pushing off," (later phase of stance) force is at
> its
> lowest. For many, this is not intuitive.
>
> As noted in the Weyand/Bundle JAP paper: (Artificial Limbs Do Make
> Artificially Fast Running Speeds Possible):
>
> "The classical literature on terrestrial locomotion established that level
> running is mechanically analogous to a ball bouncing forward along the
> ground. Like a bouncing ball, a runner's mechanical energy and forward
> momentum
> are conserved via recurring exchanges of kinetic and potential energy
> during travel. Runners accomplish this by using their legs in a springlike
> manner to bounce off the ground with each step. On landing, strain energy
> is
> stored as the body's weight and forward speed compress the stance limb and
> forcibly lengthen muscles and tendons. The strain energy stored on landing
> is
> subsequently released via elastic recoil as the limb extends to lift and
> accelerate the body back into the air prior to take off. The conservation
> of
> mechanical energy and forward momentum minimizes the need for propulsive
> force and the input of additional mechanical energy once a runner is up to
> speed."
>
>
> Ken Jakalski
> Lisle HS
> Lisle, Illinois USA
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
>

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Tuesday 18 September 2012

[marriagerestoration] God is With You!! Sept. 18, 2012 - Doreen's Daily Delights

 

God is With You!!

Today I want to dedicate this message to the many spouses who are feeling low at this time and are going through frustration, loneliness, doubt and fear. This message is only for those who are really really down, and are questioning God. Those driven down by despair, loneliness, grief, pain, suffering. It is also a message for those who are having a feeling of rejection because they don't have that special someone with them.

Isaiah 53:3 talks about the pain that Christ endured during His life on earth: "He was despised and rejected… a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief."

It's at those times when we are at the end of our own strength that God can work best through us. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul wrote, "He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."

When God allows trials to come into our lives, Peter says it's "so that our faith will be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed." (1 Peter 1:6,7)

God's strength takes over and gets us through, when we've reached the point of more than we can handle on our own. ( John 15:5 says, "Apart from me you can do nothing.)

This is why Paul boasted about his weaknesses instead of trying to hide them. He acknowledged that he had no strength himself, yet he was more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37) by God's strength and power, which worked through him.

If you are trusting the Lord to see you through, I can say with confidence that He will not fail nor forsake you. Therefore we can confidently say "…that neither death nor life…nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39).

You are never alone in your situation because you are fully known and fully understood by God. No matter what you face and no matter what burdens you must bear, God is with you, because He will never leave or forsake you, even during this time.

Today I am praying that you will feel His awesome presence in your midst, whether you are at home or with friends. Did He not promise that He wil never leave or forsake us? Did He not promise that He neither slumbers nor sleep? Did He not promise that we are the Apple of His eyes? Did He not promise that He will be with us always?

Dear Lord: Your Presence. Let Your very Presence be felt strongly. Show Yourself strong in this situation. Let Your very presence be felt, in Jesus' name, amen.

As always, I pledge to stand and pray for each of you daily.

Be encouraged

Pastor Doreen

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[Relationship-Talk] Married to one, in love with another.....

 


Hi,

I don't know if I'm in the right place for this. If I'm not, I apologize beforehand.

I've been married just 3 years. I have a daughter who just turned two.

My wife and I have been having kind of a rocky marriage for about a year now.  Kinda early, I know.  But, thats the way it is now.  We love each other, thats not the problem.  Our problem is communication. We are both rather strong-willed.  And, as such, we can't seem to talk.  We end up quarreling, and then giving each other the silent treatment.

Anyway, a few months ago, I met this woman online. I was not trolling for women to flirt with (I dont do that sort of thing).  We met on an international penpal forum.

She's married too, residing in Germany.

We started talking.  Soon, we were chatting several times a day. Eventually, our talks became closer......more intimate.

Here's the thing : all this time, she never knew I had a wife and kid.  I told her the truth about everything else in my life......except that.

To cut a long story short, we fell in "love".

In June this year, I flew to Germany to meet her.  We spent two days in a hotel, and it was wonderful.  We both realized we were in love.

After I returned home, this woman and I continued our daily talks, but this time it was more intense.  We were on the phone for hours every day. We sent each other dozens of emails....... we chatted on skype........we chatted on yahoo..........and each minute we spent, our love only deepened.

Except, I was in a fix. She did not know I was not single, and I could not bring myself to tell her the truth.

Every day, my heart got heavier and heavier with guilt.  Not so much about lying to her, but because I knew what it would do to her once she knew the truth.

Eventually, she told me she was ready to leave her husband, and start a life with me.

This was the last straw.  I wanted her in my life; I loved her as much as she loved me.  But..........I could not let her take such a step, without telling the truth.

But, instead of being a man, and just telling the truth...............I chose the COWARD's way out :  I tried to break it off with her.

I tried everything I could think of :  I stopped calling her.......I stopped sending emails.  She responded by calling me even more, and sending even more emails.

Our talks on the phone became shorter,  my replies to her emails became shorter.  I did not respond as often to her text messages, etc

She knew something was wrong.

Every hour, she called me and asked :  "Michael, what's wrong??"

And yet, I could not tell her the truth.  I tried everything I could think of : I told her I was ill, and could not talk.  She offered to fly to me, and take care of me.  So, I changed tactics :  I told her I had to go away on a business trip for a while.  She had no intention of letting up with the calls and emails and texts.

By now, she knew something was seriously up.  She begged me to video-call with her on skype, so we could talk.  As we chatted face to face, she asked me point blank :  "I know there is something you are not telling me.  Just say it, whatever it is"

I tried to change the subject; I tried to find any and all excuses possible.  I tld her that she would be happier and better off without me.  I told her that I was not good enough for her.

I even said ---- "God help me" ----- I even said that : I had found someone else.

But, she kept saying :  "I dont believe any of that.  I know you.  Tell me the truth. What aren't you telling me?"

And, thats when they came : the tears.  They ran down my face, and I could not stop them.

When she saw them, she said :  "Michael, you are married, aren't you?"

And thats when I realized, that she had probably suspected it for a while. 

I told her everything.  Wife, daughter, everything.

She cried, I cried.  And, our chat ended.

She was devastated.  She was crushed. 

I sent an email to her.  I hoped it would be the last email. I told her that I was sorry for lying, and that I loved her more than life.  And, I hope she would find someone much better than me someday.

To my astonishment, she replied back later that day, saying that it made no difference if I was married.  She wanted to be with me.

She said she was not going to steal me away from my family.  She knew she could not have me.  But, she would settle for being the "other woman" in my life.  She said :  she would rather be my "secret affair",  than not have me in her life at all.  If that was all I could offer her,  she would gladly take it. And she made it clear that : I was free to do whatever I liked.  She would not stand in my way.  But, I should not send her away !!!

She said :  she would gladly wait 20 years, if I would one day be with her.

I didnt know what to say. I thought I had lost her for good.  (Even today, i still tell her that she should have dumped me right there and then, because I deserved it!)

Every day, she tells me how much she loves me, and wants me.

The truth is :  I feel exactly the same about her. I think about her all the time...........every minute of every day. 

About a week ago, my wife started to notice the change in me. I was spending a lot of time on my phone, writing and texting. I was absent-minded.  I always made sure I had time for my duaghter, of course. But, once my daughter was asleep in bed, I withdrew into myself. I hardly spoke, hardly talked with her.

She suspected something was going on. I don't know what she thought, but she suddenly changed.  She started to talk to me more and more. She no longer sought a fight with me; instead, she sought my advice, my help in everything, even the most trivial issues.  Something she never did before.

Basically, it seemed like she was trying to get back close to me, as we were before. 

Maybe, she guessed I might have found someone else;  and, now, she is trying to fix things with me. Or, maybe it's just my imagination, I don't know.

But..........to be honest, I liked the new change. I had indeed missed having a certain closeness with my wife. I missed our talks. I missed how we used to share everything, talk about everything.

Then, there is the thought that keeps bugging me :  as a husband and father, I have a responsibility to do whatever I can to fix my marriage, and make it work.

And, of course, the guilt is there. I had cheated on my wife, and she doesn't know it.

To top it all off :  the woman I cheated with is not just some bimbo I met and had sex with. I am in love with this woman.  Madly in love.

I just dont know what to do now ((((((((((((((((((((((((





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Monday 17 September 2012

[marriagerestoration] Yes, His Promises are Sure!! - Sept. 17, 2012 - Doreen's Daily Delights

 

God's Promises Are SURE!

What do you need today? What are you seeking God for? Trust God and
know that He will bring it to pass.

God is a God of His Word. (Philippians 4:9). He has declared that
HE WILL supply all our needs according to His riches in glory in
Christ Jesus. Yet, why is it some of us doubt this?

"God is not a man, that He should lie, neither the son of man, that He
should repent; hath He said, and shall He not do it: or hath He
spoken, and shall He not make it good?" (Numbers 23:19).

"...God...cannot lie..." (Titus 1:2).

Our God is a God of integrity. When He says He will do something, HE
WILL DO IT. His Word is His bond. He will make good on all His
promises to you no matter how impossible your situation seems to be.
He has never failed you, and He doesn't intend to begin doing so now.
If you can trust anyone, you can certainly trust God. God is your
sufficiency, no matter what you need.

I encourage you to make certain that nothing takes the place of loving
Jesus and truly knowing Him. As we grow in our faith and begin to
know Him better, it becomes essential to know - and BELIEVE! - the
promises of His Word. We may say we believe God's Word is true, but
do we really act like we believe?

"Anyone who believes in the Son of God has this testimony in his
heart. Anyone who does not believe God has made Him out to be a
liar, because He has not believed the testimony God has given about
His Son." (1 John 5:10).

Yes, our old nature sometimes clouds our ability to clearly see the
truth; and yes, some of God's truths can be hard to accept and
actually put into practice. But, we either believe His words and
begin to take steps to apply them in our life or we are calling God a
liar by the way we live.

It may be difficult, but we must confront our beliefs and begin to
make them real. When we face a trial and don't know which direction
to turn, do we believe: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and
lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him,
and He will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6). Do we
really believe that as we trust Him, He will remove the confusion and
guide our steps?

When our circumstances seem out of control, do we believe; "in all
things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been
called according to His purpose"? (Romans 8:28). Do we really
believe that as we love Him, God works for the good in All things?
And when we feel alone, do we really believe God's promise to always
be with us; "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you"?
(Hebrews 13:5).

How about the promises of being content (Philippians 4:12), or being
given the peace of Jesus (John 14:27), or the fruit of the Spirit
(Galatians 5:22-23) - can we really "do everything through Him who
gives us strength"? (Philippians 4:13).

God does not lie; His Word is true and His promises are real! Let's
praise Him all the rest of our days and let our lives demonstrate we
REALLY believe - let's make sure our actions and decisions, fears and
anxieties, are governed by truth and NOT based on calling God a liar.

Just to let you all know that I lift up each of you daily before the
Lord. He hears and answers prayers. Be faithful and don't ever give
up.

Be encouraged

Pastor Doreen
2778 NW 193 Terr. Miami, FL 33056

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